I’m sure most of us believe that when the day comes and we become parents that we will be the best parents ever. However, what we don’t realize is how closely children watch their parents and imitate their actions. For this reason we have to be very careful to make sure we don’t pass our bad habits down to our children, or behave in such ways that it will have a negative impact on the child’s life. Think about it, children who grow up in an unsafe environment are often found in a similar environment when they grow up. As a parent you don’t want that for your child, you want your child to succeed so it is important you set an example for your child to follow. The way you handle anger, stress, etc. all affect your children. According to the website More4Kids.info, a parent's reaction to stress affects the way a child reacts to stress. If a parent reacts negatively, a child will learn to react negatively as well. As well, if you are always freaking out and yelling this can cause your child to act up and misbehave. Young children misbehave about 5% of the time. Knowing how to react to this 5% is crucial. Reacting correctly and consistently can reduce misbehaviour from 5% to less than 2%. Reacting incorrectly can increase misbehaviour to 10% or more. This behaviour doesn’t just happen when the child is young, it will continue as the child grows older and often gets worse.Because of this the type of parenting style you choose is very important! The best parenting style is one where you provide structure for your child but also give them freedom and let them express themselves. You need to be the best of both worlds. You don’t want to be an over controlling strict parent, one who doesn’t care, or a helicopter parent who never shows any trust. Parenting in these last three ways will have a negative impact on your child. The child will also see how you parented and will probably use the same style when they become a parent. It’s important to know your flaws so you can work on them before becoming a parent. I realize that nobody is perfect and your kid won’t be either, however our actions have such an effect on a young child we need to be careful. We shouldn’t be over controlling, we shouldn’t be demanding or threatening towards our children. These are just some of the actions we can eliminate to help our children succeed and grow up healthy. For more information on this topic you can check out these websites:
http://www.livestrong.com/article/75282-parents-effect-child-behavior/http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/275332/human-behaviour/24939/Parents-and-the-socialization-of-the-child
By: Kelsey
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Kelsey,
ReplyDeleteI defientely agree with you; parents influence practically all of their child's behaviour. I think it would be hard to find a balance between being over-controlling and not in control at all. It really bothers me when certain children really don't have a chance to succeed at life because they have grown up living like their parents. Children are always watching their parents and learn from both their words and actions. Very good blog Kels :)
I think young children learn from their parents more so when they are younger then when they are older. I have seen people who have grown up in terrible situations where they have been abused and miss-treated, and some turn out to be the same but the odd few people grown up and are the complete opposite because they know what it is like to be in that child’s shoes.
ReplyDeleteKelso,
ReplyDeleteI think you pick a really good topic. I agree with you; however the parents of a child act, the children will most likely act the same. When you are in the presents of your child, you need to act in an appropriate way so you can teach them good habits. I also agree with if you start yelling at your child, they will react negatively towards you.