When it comes to disciplining your child it is hard to make a decision on how to do it and when the right time is. When your child breaks the rules that you have set down, they should have consequences for their actions. When he/she does, you have to be patient with them and talk to them about what they have done instead of immediately yelling at them and making unreasonable consequences that you will not follow through with. Research studies have shown that this kind of discipline is harmful to your child. Children who have had this sort of discipline find that it is okay to react back by yelling and causing a fit. Instead, you need to hear the reasoning that they have behind why they missed curfew or why they did something. After you heard them out, you take away something that they enjoy or assign chores that will take them awhile. After they have these consequences, they will learn to the rules that you have set for them and that there is reasoning why you have set these rules. Another way is if you have a young child you can firmly say “no” to them so then they know that what they are doing is not appropriate behavior. When a child is young, it is more difficult to decide on how to discipline them because they sometimes will not fully understand what you are trying to explain to them. If you take a special toy away they will know what happens when they do not listen. If you’re a parent that believes in spanking their child when they do something wrong, the spanking should be only to teach your child a lesson so he/she understands. But, you should not spank your child just out of anger.
Disciplining your child is not always giving out consequences. It is also about rewarding your child after they have done right and followed the rules that you have set down for them. If they see what happens after you have taken something special away from them, they know not to do it and if you reward them for doing something good, they will try hard to do so. By disciplining and rewarding your child it will help them how to respect others and act appropriately.
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By: Zoey
Good arguement! its defenetly a topic that can go either way. Spanking if not done right ( most of the time) will cause major harm( confuse the kid, or make the kid less comfortable and trusting of you) . But also is spanking is done right the child may respect the parent (but spanking is not done properly most of the time). Reward is another good thing, they contine the good if you do good. Although other methods of discipline can even be worse then spanking (not done right), yelling at the child may make him or her self confidence decreace or even othre things with is considered emotional and psycological abuse.
ReplyDeleteComment By Kelsey:
ReplyDeleteZoey,
You picked a really good and controversial topic. I agree with you that when a parent is disciplining their child most of the time they are acting out of anger. This shouldn’t be they way you parent your child. You should be reasonable with your child and have set consequences for when they break the rules. I also agree that you need to follow through with these consequences or the child will think they can get away with misbehaving. You brought up a lot of good points in this blog!
Zoooey, Zoooey, Zooeey!
ReplyDeleteDiscipline is a very large topic to consider. Parents develop different discipline styles based on their personalities and expectations. Which one is the right method? This would be hard to determine and may differ from child to child because every kid is different. I agree with you; parents must decide how they are going to discipline their child when they are young. Kids will learn the most when they are taught to behave at a young age. It can then be continued on. When a child starts getting disciplined at an older age, it can be very difficult to gain control.